Friday, December 17, 2010

Quitting Facebook Saved My Sanity

Wow, I can't believe I haven't blogged for over 3 months. But honestly I'm glad I haven't. You see, about three months ago I decided to take a two week break from twitter, facebook, and blogging to clear my mind and focus on life. Well, that 2 weeks turned into a month, which turned into a little over 3 months. And trust me, it's been one of the best things I've done in a long time. But let me start from the beginning...
Last April, after a lot of prayer, Chrissy and I felt led to move from my position at a church in Virginia and move to Kansas ,where I grew up. We had everything set. I was going to work for one of my favorite youth ministry organizations, Youthfront, and we were going to spend a lot more time with my family. On our way to Kansas, we decided to take a few weeks and take the family to Florida. (not quite on the way, but well worth the surf time) While this was supposed to be a simple relaxing vacation getaway, I soon realized God didn't want me to relax to much. The whole week, while sitting on the beach, all I could think about was how much I felt like God was telling me my time in local church youth ministry was not done. What the what?! Are you serious God? I mean I just left a ministry where I loved the students and leaders to go into non-church ministry! I've been raising funds for my new ministry for over 2 months! I'm moving my family half way across the country! Seriously?!
After sharing my thoughts with my wife we decided it was something we needed to seriously commit to prayer. But not the kind of prayer where you do all the talking, but where you try and clear your mind and listen to what God wants to tell you. This is where my addiction to social media began to become evident. I noticed that I was twittering a couple times a day, checking other's tweets around 5-6 times a day, checking facebook on my phone around 6-8 times a day, and constanly thinking about what to blog next. So, I decided to quit cold turkey. If I was truly going to hear the direction God wanted me to go in I needed to get rid of all the distractions. The first couple days was tough. I had to delete the facebook app on my iphone, my twitter apps as well. But once I got in the groove of not committing so much thought and time towards all of it, I noticed I felt so much more peaceful. No longer did I wander if people had commented on my status updates, or if someone had tagged me in a new photo, or whether or not I had added more twitter followers. I was free.
The extra clarity helped me see that God was confirming the fact that He wanted me to be serving in a church. So I started interviewing for positions. First in Michigan, then flying to Pennsylvania, but something just wasn't right. Then it hit me! Our move wasn't so much about what I was going to but where we were going to. He wanted me to serve in Kansas City. But where? There weren't any open positions like there were elsewhere. So as I waited for God to tell me where, I actually got a job with 7up delivering soda. Yep, I was the 7up guy. Making little money, working long hard hours and praying for God's direction. Finally in October He showed me why we moved here. My friend at youthfront, where I originally moved to Kansas to work with, texted me to tell me his church was getting ready to start a search for a new youth pastor. So, with no expectations, I said I would meet with the pastor. Well, 2 months later and I am typing this from my new office at Olathe Bible Church as the High School Pastor. Exactly where God had planned for us the whole time.
P.S.- Yes, I'm back to using facebook , twitter, and bloggnig. Just more like every other day, not every other minute.


Ray and Janell said...

Yeah ... that's what I'm talking (texting, tweeting, FBing and Bloggin) about. :-)

jspiegle said...

God Deal, Decker. As you might know, we've moved on from New Life to start a new life in Louisiana. I'm looking for a low paying job that I'll have to work my butt off for, but unemployed for the moment. We found an excellent church an we're taking classes to become members (southern baptist). dude, lets pray for each other. -Jim

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